Sunday, April 29, 2012

Some stuff in the news has been bugging me.

If you watch the video (and please do), the guy hits the nail on the head.  This incident happened at the same time as the Trayvon incident.  Unfortunately, the murder of the war veteran and the brutal gang rape and murder of his wife went unnoticed by the national news media because they were busy reporting on the shooting of Trayvon Martin.  That was a tragedy, yes...but so is this, and no one seems to know about it.  It can't be turned into a Liberal vs Conservative or a black vs white issue.  So it's ignored.  It's not right.  This man served his country and lived his life, and the tragic way it was ended is ignored.  That's AWFUL.

My issue with him isn't about the way he talks about the Bible (because there will always be ignorant people out there bashing the Bible), but it seems QUITE hypocritical that someone who is supposedly so into anti-bullying would bully others.  He called those who were offended and left "pansy asses".  Those people who didn't agree with basically, the exact same thing he was fighting against.  The people he was bullying weren't gay though, so maybe they didn't matter to him.  
I'm so sick of this anti-bullying nonsense.  It isn't a new thing.  It's been going on since I was in grade school, since my mom was, since my grandma was.  It happens everywhere and to almost everyone whether you're: white, black, Christian, Muslim, young, old, gay, straight, short, pale, tan, tall, fat, skinny, etc...You get the picture.  Mean people have always been around and will always be around.  They will pick on those that aren't like them and that's just the way it is.  You can't get them to stop, because they don't care.  Honestly, most of them had bullies as parents.  Bullying is a learned behavior.  Empathy is too.  Instead of trying (unsuccessfully) to get  these people to stop being mean, how about we try and empower our kids and give them ways to deal with it?  It's not like bullying ends in school.  I know SEVERAL bullies in the military wife circles I run in.  Yeah, they bug me A LOT, but I have to deal with them.  That's life.  You can't always have someone holding your hand when people are mean to you.  Sometimes you have to just buck up and deal with it.  And yeah, it sucks.  I've had awful rumors started about me.  No reason at all for this happening except the people that I know are mean/bored/jealous/unhappy.  That's life.  I had to just deal with them.  Who do I have to run and tell?  No one.  I have to take care of it myself.  I called them out on the untruths, and then I stopped being friends with them.  I took myself out of situations where I would have to see them. Yes, there are times when I still do, unfortunately, but I'm polite and that's about it.  Yeah, they still talk about me, but I really don't give a crap.
See, in life, you're going to encounter a lot of people you don't like (especially if you're a military spouse!), and you gotta figure out how to maneuver through the shit.  There are a lot of really awesome people too, and that's who I choose to surround myself with.  
High school is 4 years....almost NOTHING in comparison with your life.  I recently looked up some people I graduated with, and most of them are still living in the town we graduated in, working at gas stations, delivering pizza, working at Walmart.  These are the people who were mean in school.  Trust me, it happens!  Their glory days are in high school.  Same thing with the people that Ben graduated with!  
Gotta get through some shit to really enjoy the good stuff that comes in life. 

Now, don't get me wrong, I'm going to get SEVERELY pissed when/if Delilah gets bullied.  But if it doesn't stop with some intervention, I'm going to teach Delilah how to be strong and stand up for herself.  I had to. Ben had to. People everywhere have to. 

That's all for now.  

And now for a cute picture:
Draft day girls!  We're the cutest.

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